Hi Chutzpah fam, here is the second part of the four part series on raising Godly Children by our guest-blogger, Pastor Caroline.
2. Children of some great men of God have ended up being godless. What roles must we play to ensure that our children are godly?
Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it (Proverbs 22:6).
Being spiritually strong is a prerequisite to raising godly children but is not enough to make them godly. You have a great role to play in their upbringing.
1– Pray with your child and read Bible stories to him even before he starts talking. Teach him to pray. Then when he can read, teach him to have a personal quiet time, where he can worship God, confess his sins, read his bible, pray for himself, his family and for others.
2–Learn to prophesy good things to your unborn baby and see the power of God’s word. Teach your child to honour God even before he can talk. Pray regularly with him and read Bible stories to him. The time he starts talking, teach him to pray.
3–Spend quality time with your children. Love and teach them. The first five years of life are the most crucial years. They learn 50% of what they need to know by age three and 75% by age seven. Do not let nannies mould them for you.
4–Protect your child’s environment. Environment includes what comes into your home through television, school and friends.
*Monitor the films they watch, even cartoons. Fearful cartoons expose your children to spirits of fear and many have been possessed by the demons present in some cartoons.
*We are living in a world that condones the culture of death and violence. Watching films filled with violence have been known to breed violence in children.
5—Show affection to your child. Hug him, kiss him and let him feel
loved. You are sowing love and you child will be loving.
6–Be sensitive to his needs. This requires sacrifice on your part.
7–Model what you preach. Never say do what I say and not what I do.
That ye would walk worthy of God, who hath called you unto His kingdom and glory (1 Thessalonians 2:12).
8–Do not be too strict and do not be too permissive.
9—Be very patient. Do not let your temper lead you to violence.
When you give a child a solid foundation, it becomes easy for you to train him to grow into a godly adult. When you refuse to invest in their spiritual lives very early in life, their foundation becomes spiritually weak.
If the foundations be destroyed, what can the righteous do? (Psalm 11:3)
3. The act of telling lies is a common habit in children. How can we deal with this habit?
Children tell lies for virtually the same reasons that adults lie. Children who lie often have parents who lie. Without realising it, many parents teach their children to lie. The child watches you lie to the police when you are caught breaking a traffic law. You send him to tell a lie that you are not in the house, when you want to rest. He hears you tell so called ‘white lies’. He then believes that you can lie to avoid punishment and that some lies are permissible.
–To raise honest children, you must be truthful at all times no matter the cost.
Lie not one to another, seeing that you have put off the old man with his deeds. And have put on the new man, which is renewed in knowledge after the image of Him that created him (Colossians 3:9-10).
–You must teach the children Biblical standards for honesty. Remember all liars will go to hell (Revelations 21:27, 22: 15).
- How can we build self esteem in our children knowing that timid children do not attain great heights in life?
For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of sound mind (2 Timothy 1:7).
Generally, children from enlightened and rich homes appear to have more self esteem than other children. Two main causes of low self esteem: parental influence and school environment. When parents are too harsh and violent with their children, they tend to lose their self esteem and live fearful lives. The same harsh treatment is common in public schools where many comfortable parents will not send their children. When punishment is severe, the child’s spirit is broken and he grows to be timid.
Build self esteem in your child by observing the following:
- Do not compare him with other children. This is because abilities, aptitude and intelligence vary and are inherited.
Bear in mind that children mature at different rates.
Be patient with your child and have realistic goals.
Tell your child how proud you are of him when he does well. Do not abuse or punish him when he fails. Encourage him and spend more time with him to teach him. You can provide good lesson teachers where necessary.
…To be continued…
Have a great week Chutzpah fam,
About the author: Dr Caroline Umebese is an Associate Professor at the University of Lagos, a Pastor at the Redeemed Evangelical Mission (TREM HQ) and a mother of four with a passion for young people.