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Johnny Bravo vs Santa: Who would you rather have for keeps?

Ok before I start let me announce that this post is not actually about comparing vain, selfish men to generous, once a year good guys! Heck NO! 😉
I have been pondering as I usually do, on matters such as this and following a discussion I had with le boo, I just had to share. The thing is le boo believes that all girls want a man with the sort of body on Burna Boy and Peter Okoye (P-square).


You can’t blame him, you see the way the girls go gaga at an Iyanya concert. Most of these men know that stripping to almost nothing is one of their selling points. 😉


Then there’s the other type of guy. Now let me explain why I used Santa. It isn’t because this sort of guy is cheery and verrry good, heck no! That jolly belly points to a love of food and alcohol if you ask me LOL. Anyway this other guy is not so fit, probably has never seen the four walls of a gym before and he varies from lanky to heavy, but swanky and buff are definitely not adjectives he would get a lot! He is your regular, every day, run off the mill guy; some are naughty and some are nice!
Before you rush to make a selection, might I remind you that contrary to what Hollywood, Nollywood, Bollywood, Ghollywood and all the other woods have been selling you (they and their glossy magazine allies), more than 70% of men in the world fall into the second category. But work with me on this one, if you had two men hotly pursuing you or could possibly fall for one of two men, each belonging to a different category stated above, would you veer towards Johnny Bravo or Santa?

I was gisting with a friend and she said a guy’s body doesn’t really matter to her. His personality is what’s important to her. She added that guys who were too good looking were usually a handful but when asked if she’d go to a P-square concert she exclaimed that of course she would, eye candy plus good music was irresistible! (Now you see why girls can’t resist boy bands?) Sigh…


Now my issue with having a perfect bod is that it sometimes eats away at the emotional quotient of these guys (girls included). After all how can they pay attention to say, one loyal girl when they have myriads of girls fawning over them? Sucks right? The same applies to women too. I know a hot woman who would boast that her man had no choice but to stay good because she never missed an opportunity to point out all the other men who wanted her including his friends (and the thing is, they all did want her bad, she wasn’t bluffing and her man did feel grateful). My cousin once told me that she couldn’t marry a man who was prettier than her because she would end up chasing him and giving him all the attention instead of the other way round and maybe she had a point there but I have spoken to a few great looking guys who feel their looks put a dampener on their love lives. One guy P said the first time a woman talks to him, she throws words like player, Cassanova, bad boy, ladies’ man & dog at him and expects him to be vain, narcissistic and egotistical. P says the women don’t give him a chance because his looks place him in a box and that he is judged harder than the other men. P joked that his chubby room-mate got more girls weekly than he had ever gotten in his entire life.
Don’t you just hate stereotypes? How many times have you walked away from a potentially good relationship because divorcees are like this, fine boys are like that, men with kids are usually like this, Yoruba boys are usually like that………. (The list is endless). One girl said to me about a guy she just met who seemed interested in her that “a guy who is that good-looking, dresses that well and smells so good- with a car, can’t be single…”

So back to the topic: Johnny Bravo or Santa? Ladies you simply cannot judge a book by its cover. I have met good men who looked like Greek gods; carved to perfection and men who were nothing to look at but acted like every woman ought to bow down and worship them. Personality matters! So look beyond the abs or flab and into the soul. Remember that a nerdy dude who blossomed late in life would still be nerdy inside but a fine dude who became flabby later in life would always act like he was still the boss!
Personally I would prefer a guy without six- packs because his six packs would remind me of the soft curve of my belly and the extra pounds around my thighs (Besides I do love rubbing le boo’s belly) but when it comes to having a man for keeps, looks definitely have nothing to do with it!


Have a great day Chutzpah fam,

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Posted by on February 4, 2014 in Manology, Relationships


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Copy and Paste Blogging: SPEAK OUT!

Two days ago, I stumbled upon one of my original articles: on Stella Dimoko-Korkus’ blog:
    No acknowledgement had been given to me and I immediately sent her an email drawing it to her attention. This was the response I got:

” My dear. Im sorry bout this oh. Even punch stole all my original words last week when they went to defend a story and did not give me credit. I did a double take and almost fainted.
Before i became a blogger. My magazine articles was taken by Linda without giving me credit for yrs. She and others and there was notin i cud do.
There is no. Effective law on this. Just stop puttn out ur articles until u device a way. I cant say more but i have decided to join them since they will not stop oh.”

I was too stunned for words. Stella didn’t change her blog post after the email. As far as she was concerned she had mentioned in the post that she didn’t write it and linked back to the website she took it from. More importantly intellectual property theft was normal since she had been a victim in the past but I wasn’t ready to let it go. I wasn’t angry with Stella for taking my work, I was angry that she chose not to fight for herself when others took her work and now expected me to follow suit!

On a whim I googled that particular post and these blogs had also stolen that post without any acknowledgement:

After the first Google page had yielded these four as well as two other blogs who did the right thing and acknowledged me, I was too angry to search for more. I wondered how many of my posts had been illegally reproduced elsewhere on the internet and what my next line of action should be.

So many people have suffered this in silence, from the big shot bloggers to the newbies and it continues to be a disturbing trend. Now in Nigeria, every Tom, Dick and Harry feels they can start a blog with zero imagination and zero creativity just as long as they can ‘copy and paste’ from the vast material available on the Internet. These materials were written by human beings who in many cases do not require any form of financial settlement in exchange for using their materials but just an acknowledgement and perhaps a link to the original post so that they get the recognition they deserve.

Nigerians especially are guilty of this copy and paste menace. In my first year as a masters student at the University of Sheffield, I was amazed at what emphasis the University placed on plagiarism. It wasn’t even enough to include your source as a reference, you were not allowed to lift the contents word for word and before submitting your assignment you had to first submit a draft to turnitin which was an automated plagiarism checker. The penalty for plagiarism was not a laughing matter and facing a panel or repeating the course were just a few of the punishments.

People have been involved in lawsuits costing them thousands of dollars due to intellectual property theft but like Stella sadly pointed out such laws are absent or lax at best in Nigeria and common in all spheres of the entertainment industry. I remember when Nollywood actors and actresses came together to fight against piracy and even in the music industry it’s a serious problem. One might say Piracy and Plagiarism are two different things but if an artist sweats to come up with some good stuff and someone else takes the recognition, glory or gains then it is just wrong. It is daylight robbery to pass someone else’s work off as yours and to all those who justify themselves that they got it from someone else who was the actual thief, ask the policeman whether he doesn’t arrest a person found with stolen goods even if the person claims the stolen goods were bought from the actual thief.

I have been advised to stop putting articles out till I device a way and this is one way I hope will make a difference. I am speaking out today against intellectual property theft in Nigeria and copy and paste bloggers. Honest, talented bloggers in the blogosphere should unite and put a stop to this. No more monkey dey work, baboon dey chop! If you doubt that this is a legit issue, contact a lawyer. I have two working with me who are encouraging me to sue. Now that I have put this post out in the open, I will make stealing posts from my blog/website a legal issue from henceforth.

Please stop copy and paste blogging. I don’t think any writer would prevent you from reproducing part of their work if you gave them some credit in the post. Let’s fight for what’s right and shake off the Naija mentality and oppression. I almost didn’t write this because some people kept tryna scare me into letting go but now is the time to SPEAK OUT! Please keep sharing this post till the word gets out.

Have a blessed day Chutzpah fam,


Posted by on January 30, 2014 in Inspirational


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