Has your sex life come to a halt and you are on the verge of sexual frustration? Are her anti-sex headaches legendary? Don’t freak out just yet. Here are 10 winning ways to help her flip the switch in your favor!
1. Don’t whine about it or ask her to make time or lecture her about her God-ordained duties.
It’s counter productive my brother!
2. Don’t spend all your time in another room on your devices.
In this case out of sight is a sigh of relief and an unapologetic ‘out of mind’ rejoinder.
3. Hold her
You think she’s selfish or acting up but still you should hold her close. It’s possible that she hasn’t been held tenderly in a nonsexual way in a while.
4. Talk with her
About something unrelated to sex or the lack thereof. Find out about her day.
5. Be there with her
Silence can be very loud, sit with her, lie with her, stand in the kitchen with her, before long the issues she’s buried within will surface and perhaps you’d be able to sort them out and then get to the kiss and makeup part.
6. Make her feel loved
The sexual act begins long before you touch her. Does she genuinely feel the sincerity of your love for her or are you only honey-tongued when you want some TLC?
7. Make her feel appreciated
Thank her for the things you may have overlooked. Thank her for things you noticed but forgot or deliberately chose not to comment on. A woman who feels appreciated is a woman ready to give some more of herself.
8. Make her feel important to you
Sexual objects are only important for a couple of minutes and then it’s bye bye till the need arises. Same with cooks, laundry women, housekeepers…catch my drift? You need to make her know she means so much more to you.
9. Tell her she is amazing
Have you ever read the Songs of Solomon? He writes amazing poetry about every part of his woman’s body that any insecurities she may have had fly out the window and she’s ready to give herself to him. Tell her!
10. Make her feel safe and not judged
And if all else fails and you still are left in the cold, don’t treat her badly or reject her. Allow her feel safe enough to say NO, safe enough not to fear that you would withdraw your love or care if she doesn’t perform.
Your relationship is not performance oriented. Let her know you value her on the good days and on the bad ones too…
Have a great weekend Chutzpah fam,