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Ten Reasons He won’t marry you… Part 1

23 Dec

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The only constant thing in life is change right? Well for many women that change was supposed to come in 2013 along with a proposal, a ring and a 2014 wedding date now you are wondering what the hell is going on in that head of his and if he is seeing someone else behind your back.

I am wondering too and y’all know how curious I can be so I asked a bunch of random dudes about the stuff that would make them think twice about going the whole hog with a great girlfriend and ladies, the answers were shocking.

So in no particular order, here are the ten deal breakers.

1. A foul mouth: My friend A was thinking twice about asking his girlfriend of four years to marry him because of her razor sharp tongue. When she was angry, she would say things to him that tore him up inside and for weeks afterwards her words would sting like a hot slap every time he remembered them. She always apologized afterwards and would say she was only speaking the truth but we all know how that feels and ladies, the guys are saying NO to EMOTIONAL ABUSE too!

2. The lazy-selfish diva: Lazy and selfish are now a twosome? Noooo! Well B says YES! B says that a selfless woman wouldn’t be aversed to getting her hands dirty and he says that his girlfriend S was disqualified for being lazy AND selfish. She would never call herself those things because she is a successful exec who works hard at her job but she always thought about herself first and only! Her excuse was that she had lived alone for three years and if she wanted a liability she would get a pet! She wanted a man who would not require her to be the cliche woman or be petty enough to get angry when she cooked for one on days when she knew he was coming over.

3. The Olojukokoro aka the greedy,gold-digger: I want, I want, I WANT!!! That is her mantra and P said he would scream if he heard those words from her mouth one more time. She knew the prices of the latest phones, cars and houses and who was on Forbes richest but didn’t seem to know much else and he always had a feeling she would dump him the moment he couldn’t finance her. She wasnt even from a rich background and he knew she wanted to be Mrs P badly because of his (what did she call it?) PEDIGREE but he wasn’t so sure anymore…

4. High maintenance: It wasn’t her fault she hadn’t worked a day in her life even with her masters. It wasn’t that she couldn’t get a job, she just couldn’t get the perfect job! And she was used to the best of everything (thanks to her dad and her unending list of admirers). He liked her class but was afraid that her ‘undying’ love didn’t have what it took to utter the words “For better or worse” and actually mean them.

5. Too independent: J wasn’t sure if he had a valid reason for complaining but having a girlfriend who was a super woman and could do absolutely everything on her own made him feel well, not needed! He wasnt old fashioned and definitely didn’t want a damsel in distress but he wanted to feel like he was important to her and not just some item of minimal usefulness that she could do away with at random and her dildo wasn’t helping… Meanwhile T who considered herself the perfect girlfriend was wondering why on earth he was dragging his feet. She had a timeline for her life and marriage was almost late, the ring was supposed to come after the promotion. Geez!

6.  Too dependent: “Tell me your plans” “…well other than finding a good man and getting married, I don’t have much else. Marriage is an institution founded by God and a full time job right? hahaha…” G didn’t think it was in the least bit funny. He understood that society put mad pressure on women but not having a concrete plan for her life besides getting married really sucked. He wasn’t ready to make her only dream come true, life was NOT that easy!

7. Too gangster: K had been very much attracted to B when he met her at the club, she could roll a joint better than most dudes, used swear words in the bedroom that got him really horny and had an IDGAF attitude that made people respect her and they had been together for long but suddenly he wanted a woman who was more like his sister. Yes his sister didn’t dress sexy and was a bit overweight but she felt like home to him and marriage was too long a time not to feel at home…

8. Baggage: She has too much baggage, she has too much baggage, SHE HAS TOO MUCH BAGGAGE! Five guys gave me this answer and two who didn’t actually use the word baggage implied it. F said he was tired of hearing about her exes and the evil they had done her. R said he was fed up with being punished for the crimes of every man who had ever treated her wrong, that a simple argument always escalated because she would retreat to a dark space in the recesses of her mind. S was tired of assuring her he would not treat her the way her dad had treated her mum…these men couldn’t imagine travelling the rest of their lives with this much baggage.

9. Dirty: D stared at the mess his girlfriend had made after the weekend she spent at his place. It didn’t help that she insisted on cuddling when her Brazilian weave reeked like a dead rat not to mention the Amazon jungle down below or those armpits! How on earth would she be able to keep a home when she couldn’t even keep his tiny bachelor pad or herself for that matter, neat. He sighed as he began to wash the dishes. Her flat was always clean but he was starting to suspect her flat mate was responsible. How could one woman be so unperturbed? Y couldn’t be bothered, there was a reason people hired house helps and she wished D would let her hire one for him….

10. The opinionated Bosslady: It’s the 21st century and women are not taking crap from anyone. There is freedom of speech and we all know that what a man can do a woman can do so many times better. But as a woman when do you go from expressing your opinions to being downright offensive, demeaning and controlling? This is what H would like to know. His girlfriend is smart he knows that but she is such an unrepentant know-it-all that his friends have gotten tired of her superior airs. She scoffs at the notion that women should be submissive and believes that the most intelligent ought to lead the pack not the one with the balls. H bought a ring 6 years ago but he is thinking of taking it to the pawn shop this Christmas….

There were other points that didn’t make the cut like looks and weight because I figured if he was dating an overweight girl with the notion that she would slim down after some years then he was the one who needed a reality check. A person is much more than how they look. Other more obvious character traits like honesty, how the woman treats other people and respect were also left out because these are core traits and if she doesn’t have them, most men wouldn’t even bother considering the long haul.

No one is perfect but ladies maybe we can add eliminating that trait to the list of to-dos in the new year and shock the pants off le boo!

Watchout for part 2 when I ask the women what they have to say…
Have a great holiday chutzpah fam!
Xoxo

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Posted by on December 23, 2013 in Relationships

 

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6 responses to “Ten Reasons He won’t marry you… Part 1

  1. aimi

    December 23, 2013 at 10:39 am

    Reblogged this on Lost in The World Map.

     
  2. cho wan yau

    December 23, 2013 at 1:17 pm

    Reblogged this on Gorgeous and commented:
    Very funny and oh so true

     
  3. Carol Balawyder

    December 23, 2013 at 4:14 pm

    Too independent. Now, here’s a reason that resonates with me and probably a lot of divorced women as well as feminists. Being divorced forces you to do a lot of things on your own that used to be a “man’s job. Like take for example, putting up bookshelves. Whenever my Ex did something like that I use to marvel at his skill. Wow! What a hero. Until I, on my own, needed to put up some bookshelves. Guess what? It’s not that big of a deal. Screwdrivers and planks of wood aren’t that mysterious. And now that I have found a handy man to do those things that I don’t wish to do I’d like a man around for romance.

     
  4. virtuousspirit

    December 24, 2013 at 12:56 pm

    They don’t want the independent woman neither do they want the dependent type. so what do they now want? a mix of the two? *sigh. Great read! Really made me laff

     
  5. beezglean

    December 24, 2013 at 12:57 pm

    sooooo true, I agree, and also some ladies are too desperate, too desperate to be a Mrs somebody, so when they get married, the perfect woman’ veil shall be unveiled, revealing a pack of wolves, stored inside her, but with all these the devil you know is better than the devil you don’t . tnks chutzpah 4 d info.

     
  6. drnsmusings

    January 1, 2014 at 7:32 pm

    Lol @ thinking of taking the ring to the pawn shop! Hehehe! Our mothers knew how to make men commit. Keep them wishing. When u move in, d desire to marry u moves out. Just saying.

     

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