Is love enough?

14 Feb

A not so recent poll showed that the average person is willing to sacrifice 6 months’ salary to find true love!
To some, this may be regarded as a bad business investment, not with the divorce rate sky rocketing and broken love being as common as a 20 naira note. Nowadays people wonder if this thing called love is worth sticking their necks out for.

What is love anyway? According to my friend D, if it isn’t ‘agape’ love (the kind taught in the bible; meaning you could be Jack in the titanic for that person), then all na wash! Cos according to him, if it ain’t that kinda love, then it’s just prada-coated lust! I was watching Tinsel last night and was so mad at Soji for going to jail for a crime he didn’t commit because of his love for some chick who’d cheated and dumped him times without number. Some weeks back, I had been itching to slap someone as Fred Ade-Williams’ wife allowed her husband’s ex into their home because he had amnesia and his only memories were not of her but of a former love. I didn’t pity her one bit when she found out they had started sleeping together! Obviously, I could never be Jack in the Titanic!

My African sensibilities forbid that I love blindly but is that enough to say all I’ve ever felt has been infatuation and lust? Is that enough to say I am incapable of knowing what true love is? Abeggy joor, course not! I have loved; Deeply, truly and sacrificially, I have had my heart broken and had it mended again. Yes this thing called love is more potent than we can imagine. But is love enough?

After things with boyfriend number two went awry because of religious differences, I learnt an important lesson. Love is like salt in soup. Without salt, the soup is tasteless, boring, almost inedible (almost I said) but yet who can eat salt alone? So again I ask, ‘Is love enough?’
Today all over the world sincere and not so sincere people proclaimed undying love for 24 hours to that special person. But was the love proclaimed enough to keep them together till next year’s valentine’s day or even till the end of the week? For many the answer is No!

If anyone claims to understand this thing called love, then the person claims to be the wisest of all. Love is damn hard to figure. Worse than a jigsaw puzzle because sometimes the pieces just don’t fit right. Love defies logic, it baffles common sense. As if that’s not enough trouble, it springs up in the most unlikely places and loves to evade those who earnestly seek it. Love… The beginning and end of wahala. It’s such a beautiful emotion yet people have acted foolishly and sometimes even committed hurtful, heinous crimes all in the name of love. But powerful as it is, is love enough?

Can love keep a couple together during a storm? Can love replace the emptiness of a bank account? Can love take away the pain of death? Can love mend a heart betrayed by infidelity? Or more cliché, can love put food on the table? Love can do a whole lot of things but there are some things it cannot do… Love cannot take the place of friendship, honesty, maturity, trust and fidelity between two people. Love heals but love destroys.

As we enjoy the spirit of the moment, let’s pause and evaluate this thing called love. It’s worthy of celebration but one must remember that it cannot stand alone. Fortifying it takes more effort than the acceptance of jobless butterflies floating around in your unsuspecting tummy! Like a rose garden love should be tenderly pruned and watered and planted in a soil rich with honesty and fertile with trust for it to blossom. It doesn’t matter if the soil be clay, humus or sandy for we were all made differently and have different priorities. Don’t wait till next year to check on your garden, it needs attention everyday…

“Love is sustained by action, it is a pattern of devotion in things we do for each other everyday…” (Nicholas Sparks)

Happy Valentine’s day Chutzpah fam!


Posted by on February 14, 2012 in Hall of Fame, Relationships


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14 responses to “Is love enough?

  1. Novembre Pleut

    February 14, 2012 at 11:54 pm

    Great post, with balanced opinions there.

    I don’t think you love in order to accomplish things, it’s not a function of progress, or deprivation.

    It’s simply it’s own unique thing that is supposed to be lived through without any form of accomplishments

    YOu can love someone who is terrible for you or marry someone who you have no love for.

    It leads people to lots of good but also lots of bad as well.

    It’s like water, the substance required for life, is also in another guise, the earth’s most destructive force, capable of cutting even diamonds under the right conditions.

    and while plenty are willing to drink it when thirsty, you’d be hard pushed to find those who wish to drown in it.

    I think the fact that it means everything and nothing simultaneously is what gives it its clout and in a world full of substance, it’s abstractness is appealing. It’s essentially and artform.The first artform

    and where would the world be without art? Not a place I’d want to live in

    Thanks for the inspiring peace

  2. rolls

    February 15, 2012 at 6:10 am

    So true dear. So true.


    February 15, 2012 at 9:36 am


  4. datboy_NOT

    February 15, 2012 at 12:30 pm

    Love ??? Wetin be dat….sorry pardon my hindu, love such a beautiful thing…..loving u is easy cos ur beautiful, la la la la …..the mac daddy mk ya jump jump daddy mac will mk ya jump jump…..I love u chutzpah philo love…hahahahahaha…..its d hash brownies talking!!!!

  5. ifedayo

    February 15, 2012 at 12:47 pm

    Nice blog….I share similar sentiments with d author. ℓ♥√ع isn’t enough!

  6. David

    February 15, 2012 at 2:12 pm

    Well said!!!!….Looooooool@ jobless butterflies….
    Love is more of a mystery if ud ask me!*wink*….
    Keep it up!

  7. amy

    February 15, 2012 at 2:41 pm

    I see wat u did there… Love is sustained by action, it is a pattern of devotion in things we do for each other everyday…”
    I see u!

  8. Myne Whitman

    February 15, 2012 at 9:38 pm

    Happy New Year dear and hope you had a great val. You nailed it here.

    • Neetah

      February 23, 2012 at 7:34 am

      Happy New Year sweets. Valentine’s day was awesome. Thanks

  9. Ezer Meet

    April 3, 2012 at 9:09 am

    I’d actually started reading this post thinking i knew what my answer would be, i was going to say No, Love is not enough. But as i read through it, i felt like something dropped in my spirit. I realised that my initial thought was based on ‘human’ reasoning and the ‘human’ definition of love. I’m increasingly trying to look at things through God’s eye’s, the way He intended for things to be. On that note, i’d say that yes, love is enough. But not Eros love as is experienced by most men and women. But Agape as you mentioned. I think the first point i should make is, Love is NOT a feeling, its a decision and the things we do. 1Cor 13, gives us the definition of love, if we DECIDE and CHOSE to follow everything laid out there can we truly say ‘Love’ can then not conquer all?

    If we decide to do these things i.e. love, when we don’t feel it, when the other party has upset us, even when we feel only negative things, that’s true love and it is more than enough. We should also bear in mind that God is love, how then can we say love is not enough.

    You can read up some more on this on my blog

  10. Gabriel

    March 12, 2013 at 9:08 am

    Well said Ezer Meet…

  11. Jeffrey Dixon

    October 15, 2013 at 1:40 am

    i left my wife 6 years from 2007 to 2013 still seperated but married 17 yrs she still counts our anniversery so all the sudden i woke up and fell in love with her last week after written a poem to her, after i told her i fell in love with u and she says why wait so long to say that? i told her honestly to god i am really in love with u. she says she loves me but is love enough ? im doing the best i can with my best effort she can see me trying hard to committed be a husband, father love is patient and love is kind like the bible says.
    she says give me time and space i need to think this over but there is hope and a chance ?

  12. Jeffrey Dixon

    October 15, 2013 at 1:43 am

    i need to take her out more often than leaving her and 2 kids home since it was all about me me me me i need to change everything and show her proof that i can show her true love

    • Neetah

      October 15, 2013 at 7:23 am

      You are on the right path Jeffrey. Love never fails…


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