I was watching the hit cartoon ‘Chicken Little’ based on part of a story I read in school. Anyway they get to the part where the chicken and his pops are trying to return the baby alien to his alien parents and abort an invasion and plan A’s failed, plan B isn’t any good and just as all hope seems lost, he hatches a plan C and voila, he saves the day.
The movie got me thinking.
We humans are famous for having a backup plan. Very few people go about life without a plan B.
Right from the beginning of time we see humans making do with plan B because A just isn’t any good.
Sarah gave her slave to her husband Abraham cos she needed a kid real bad, we all know how that turned out.
Sometimes it becomes glaringly clear after we put plan B into motion that we’d have been better of waiting for plan A and at that point plan C’s born.
We live in a hustle or get left behind kinda world. You can’t be left without a plan at any point in time. Human beings are imperfect creatures and sadly have no control over the world they live in and so they spend most of their lifetime identifying loop-holes and inventing ways of getting past the unseen glitches that don’t show up till the very last minute.
I’ve always been impatient and at every point in time in my life, sticking to one plan was considered to be setting myself up for disaster.
While waiting to be admitted into Queen’s College Yaba, I went to ISL for a term. While waiting for my results, I registered for GCE. While waiting for a new boyfriend/potential husband I went on quite a number of dates. Why I ask, do we imagine the worst and take the necessary steps for a softer landing?
I’ve heard countless women give anecdotes about why putting all your eggs in one basket is foolhardy and unadvisable especially in the man department. Yet I know a couple of women who’ve lost everything because they had a plan B. So how do we draw the line between just trusting and acting smart?
There are some things you must consider when getting a plan B.
1. Is it necessary?
2. Have you explored fully the options plan A has to offer?
3. Will plan B clash with the original plan?
4. Will embarking on plan B make it impossible to return to plan A?
5. How patient have you been?
It’s not enough to plan if you don’t actually do something about it. The difference between an achiever and a dreamer is actually getting down to doing something. Sometimes a little act can seem insignificant but in retrospect it usually is a step in the right direction.
Procastinators dream big but achieve little cos they never get around to doing it and many times they hatch a brilliant plan but need several backups in the long run because they never seized the moment.
So what do you do when even plan B fails? It’s bad enough when things don’t go according to the original plan but that isn’t usually the killer cos deep down even the most optimistic person knows that things don’t always go according to plan so that’s why we always have plan B on the side but what do you do when the chips are down and plan B leaves you as in the lurch as your original plan?
What do you do when you lose your job and find out all the money you saved is in a distressed bank and you can’t get it out? What do you do when you fail WAEC, NECO and GCE all in the same year? What do you do when you catch your rebound cheating minutes after you left your man cos you caught him cheating? What do you do when you don’t know what else to do?
Here’s what I recommend;
When the absolute worst has happened then it means you’ve hit rock bottom. Surprise! There aint nowhere else to fall to. You can only dust yourself and thank God you are still breathing cos dead men don’t get another chance. It aint over till the fat lady sings and since we don’t know which fat lady in what country they are referring to, you can safely relax.
Take stock of the situation. This is a time to think deeply. A time for critical appraisal of oneself. Assess your f**kups. Don’t let anyone do it for you. At periods like this, friends, family and haterz will be eager to point out where you went wrong or on the other extreme try very hard not to point it out to you when it’s brazenly written on their faces and in their eyes. It doesn’t matter what anyone says. If you don’t see where you went wrong, you aint gonna ever get out of that pit. Any attempt to salvage the situation without a prior proper evaluation will be akin to clutching at straws. Sometimes in all fairness, the fault isn’t yours at all. Yeah there are some situations howbeit few and far between where you did and said everything absolutely right but still everything fell apart. An evaluation is still in order! This time you evaluate the situation. Yes we know man can always fail and unforseen situations may arise but by taking careful stock of the situation you can incorporate the pitfalls to plan C and be the wiser for it.
Sometimes things get so tough and the sugary voices of sympathizers may only serve to irritate. Talk to God. Tell Him your fears. He’s the only one who isn’t fooled by the calm exterior you put up while you are crumbling inside. He’s the only one to whom you can actually show your weaknesses, bawl like a baby, tear out your hair but talk to Him. In this tough ass world many people find it hard to trust anyone but you can trust Him. His thoughts for you are not of evil but of good to give you a future and a hope. Pray!
We are all allowed a moment’s weakness. So you’ll be forgiven if you get drunk, be a drama queen, get cynical, shed some self-pity tears, push everyone away and misyarn just as long as you realise it’s a phase and unfortunately the phase doesn’t end with you out of the pit. So what do you do? You strategize! Yes when B fails, you dust yourself up and go back to the drawing board to bring life to plan C. There’s no guarantee plan C will work but hey if you are still living and breathing then there’s still time for plan D to Z and if you get to Z and you’re still in a rut start with latin letters. Plan alpha, plan beta etc. Sounds cooler ay?
But a wise man knows when to quit! I call it the cut-off point! It’s crazy for some folks cos Abraham got a kid at a hundred years old. Thomas Edison got a light bulb after the one thousandth try so how are you sure your cut off point isn’t actually age 99 or the 999th try? Edison’s words on the lightbulb were; “I didn’t fail 1,000 times. The light bulb was an invention with 1,000 steps.”
So don’t give up no matter how dismal things may look. The next time may be the best time!
“Our greatest glory is not in never falling but in rising every time we fall.”~ Confucius
Have a great day peeps and Season’s greetings!!! Xoxo