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Cutting your clit to spite your libido!!! *Adult content

19 Nov

     My first call duty as a corper doctor was four nights ago. It didn’t help that I was on call again the next day which was a public holiday. I’d previously been handling the saturday clinics and hence was exempted from call duty but with the increase in salary promised to us by the government well on the way, the other doctors felt it necessary to ensure we corper docs earned every penny.
I had skipped work that morning based on the fact that my call duty would run from 4pm on monday to 8am on wednesday. Did I hear someone say bloody hell? Nobody bat an eyelid at work at my obvious absence, half of them weren’t even at work and the others that made it to work were just happy that they had the public holiday to themselves. I got to the hospital at some minutes past four and realised that I didn’t know where the makeshift children’s wards were. The hospital has been undergoing some renovations of recent and every unit has been moved around a bit. I also came to the unfortunate realization that the houseofficer that was to work under me for the night was green, pediatrics being his first posting. So there I was bag and laptop in hand, armed with a hair net, wrapper and tissue paper and trying to find the key to the call room while my houseofficer ran down my phone battery begging me to come set a line he hadn’t even attempted. I finally got myself sorted out and prepared myself for forty hours of call duty!

Several patients later, I snuggled into bed, grateful for the cold airconditioning and steady power supply the hospital provided. It was past midnight and I was ready to take a bow when my blasted phone rang yet again. I cursed loudly in Isoko and struggled out of bed, not bothering with earrings or my wristwatch but remembering to whisk my hair net off my head. Yeah yeah despite what Noble Igwe thinks, I still wear hair nets to bed when my boyfriend isn’t anywhere in sight! 😉
I got to the wards and met the houseofficer, a nurse and a couple with a baby. The baby was a month old and had blood dripping down its legs. What happened I asked? Trying to sound as calm and professional as I could given the situation, the fragility of the child, the volume of blood and the thought of the work that lay ahead.
‘We circumcised the child at home and it didn’t go well’
The mother was sobbing, the father was exasperated. The woman who performed the act was fast asleep in her home, her wallet fatter! I christened the unknown woman ‘Edward scissors-hands’. Yes I’ve got a brain that depends on humor to preserve my sanity in the medical profession.
The child was paper white, had used six pampers in quick succession each being thoroughly soaked with bright red blood and all her tiny veins had collapsed, making my job a hellish one.
I am pleased to say the child survived and nights like this make my job worthwhile but it got me thinking. She survived but Lord knows how many other female babies die from massive hemorrhage because their parents want to keep them from the evils of sex. The poor baby’s elder sister had been circumcized, her mother had been circumcized. They were from Imo state and miles away from their village but still held bound by tradition. It was their identity, all they knew. As the mother wailed to Chineke God not to punish her by taking away the child she suffered to carry for nine months and I mumbled a prayer under my breath begging God to let me find a vein so I could resuscitate the dying child I couldn’t help wondering why….

Female Genital Mutilation (FGM) is practised all around Africa. It is a rite of passage for most women. Their choice in the matter never sought for as most of them are circumcized either as infants or before puberty. Just to ensure purity, a preservation of sexual morals and reduce fornication. I have a friend whose mother was circumcized as a baby yet she got pregnant in SS3 and gave birth to my friend so what was the motivation? If FGM turns women into frigid creatures uninterested in sex except for the purpose of reproduction, then why was this glitch present? Did she enjoy her boobs being played with or strive to please the horny teenager she called her lover that she didn’t care that she would never experience an orgasm but still went ahead to give life to his seed?
Surely a tradition that has left many women maimed, in pain and dead not to mention scarred and frigid should be fool proof right?
Why would a man want his daughter to lie stiffly in bed as her husband had her way with her? The only sounds in the room being his grunts and the squeaking of the bed?
Women have learnt to fake orgasms but could it be that this was the origin of the trend that has spread so widely amongst women?
Why would a woman deprive her daughter of the pleasures of cunnilingus? Even if it was morally frowned at, did she not care that her daughter would never know what it meant to be fingered? No wonder in african movies, grabbing a woman’s breasts made her squeal with such delight hence the term african romance was birthed in its rawest form as that was all the pleasure the woman could hope for since the bundle of nerves responsible for the feel-good feeling down there had been permanently severed.

Many people have pointed out that sex is a thing of the mind and maybe that’s the rationale behind searing her womanhood. But has FGM achieved the purpose for which it was created? Statistics show that the number of pregnant teenagers who are circumcized is not significantly lower than those who are not. These same statistics however prove that the number of women who have been circumcized who suffer complications like massive bleeding and tetanus is on the increase and those who had long term sequelea like HIV and Hepatitis B as well. Would any parent happily give up the fruit of their loins to avoidable morbidity and mortality? If this was a well-established tradition why aren’t there government approved hospitals that cater for this need rather than putting the lives of innocent children in the hands of a pepper-seller with a sharp knife! Everyone turns a blind eye saying the tradition has been abolished yet everyday a new generation of circumcized children are reared.
What guy would willingly marry a frigid woman? These women rather than carrying the mark of their culture with pride have an aura of shame around them and a humility that is decidedly ungodly. One can’t but shed tears for these beautiful creatures who have been branded for life.

As that baby battled for her life, her parents in great sorrow, I wondered who was to blame. These parents obviously loved their kid and only felt they were doing the right thing. We had to call in the surgeons to sew up the tangle of flesh that used to be her external genitalia. I couldn’t help wondering if Edward Scissors-hands had been high on kai kai or blind as a bat when she made the cut or cuts.
I must say at this point to parents that there’s no guarantee your child will not get pregnant in highschool if you circumcize her and the elders and keepers of tradition won’t sit with you at the hospital at 3am praying to God to spare your child’s life neither will they provide money for the funeral.
Men who think it their place to uphold the tradition, I have this to say to you; if you think breaking your woman or daughter’s spirit will keep her grounded remember the bird with a broken wing. One day it will fly again. If you loved your wives so silent when being f**ked why do you spend so much on porn and secretly crave a woman who turns every alphabet into a swear word when a man rocks her world?
Don’t maim these women, their tears and shouts for mercy have reached high up into heaven.
Stand against Female Genital Mutilation, stand for the rights of women everywhere.
A woman’s smile is like blessed rain, don’t take it away.
She needs all her lips and smiles intact! The vertical smile included.
Don’t cut off her clit to spite her libido!
Say No to Female Genital Mutilation! Let our generation see an end to this awful tradition.
Stand for something today!
And women on a final note when you are scrubbing down there and you feel your clit or you are contemplating whether to wank or go for fellowship, remember to be grateful. There are some women who don’t even know what a clitoris is!
Have a great day peeps! Xoxo

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Posted by on November 19, 2010 in Hall of Fame, Health, Inspirational

 

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15 responses to “Cutting your clit to spite your libido!!! *Adult content

  1. ireloju

    November 19, 2010 at 7:32 am

    Anita,this is an issue on which I have a different opinion,I believe that rather than fight FGM,we shld work to make sure that in cultures where it is practiced,it is done to only consenting adults and as much as possible in a controlled manner,this is also my opinion for male circumcision,let the individual worry about his/her sexuality when he/she is old enough to understand it.

     
    • nitarules

      November 19, 2010 at 7:51 am

      Fada that could work but it wouldn’t be much of a tradition if it was freewill! And who would willingly allow themselves be cut down there? *shiver*
      Sent from my BlackBerry wireless device from MTN

       
  2. ireloju

    November 19, 2010 at 9:26 am

    Ever hrd of vaginoplasty,that’s the western “make my pussy sexy” version of circumcision,humans want and allow many “odd” stuff,believe me many nigerian women will gladly be circumcised in adulthood if their traditons require/demand it

     
  3. ladi

    November 20, 2010 at 11:08 pm

    i have had girl friends who enjoyed me fingering them or those who didnt. i never knew circumcision made the difference. thanks 4 educating me.

     
  4. Ada O

    November 21, 2010 at 1:40 pm

    that’s a horror story Anita.. hmm I don’t know any women who would willingly cut themselves there ( I do think that child should be shown to the community and then ask them if it’s worth it to nearly die for basically nothing, may be an effective strategy in eradicating this horror) but I’m hoping that this tradition is on the way out.

    regarding male circumcision, I once met someone who confessed to me that he had a disfigured penis (i did not see it oh!) as a result of a botched circumcision and it got me thinking and (researching) male circumcision (don’t google image ‘botched circumcision’ if you are eating) and I’m of the opinion that it’s another archaic tradition that has become socially acceptable. If I have a male child, I’ll let him be (also I cannot imagine watching a newborn child (male or female) get excised without anesthesia, sure they may not remember the pain, but I will. Imagine how guilty the mother will feel for the rest of her life) …

     
  5. Wunmi

    November 22, 2010 at 11:38 am

    I stand to disagree with Ireloju, Vaginoplasty is not the same thing as Female genital Mutilation or Female Genital Cutting as it is popularly called today, the former is done most times for cosmetic reasons or sexual enhancement ,when it’s done without the consent of the individual in question for religious cultural and other non-therapeutic reasons ,then it’s FGM orFGC.

    I would totally agree with the fact that the tradition should be scraped,but i acknowledge the fact that in our society,Traditions that have been passed down from past generations are quite difficult to eradicate,hence i think as Ireloju mentioned earlier that, if it must be done,highest levels of hygiene should be observed during the process and should be done by recognized experienced hands.
    Like Anita highlighted, the purpose for the procedure has not really been accomplished as we still have a high level of teenage pregnancies.
    I personally think that the sexual urge or libido is more strongly dependent on natural physiological mechanism of hormones and not on the presence or absence of the clitoris entirely even though the later enhanced the effect, so in weighing the risk and benefits, which we all still have not been able to identify,the act of FGM/C should be discouraged…. thinking back it’s almost the same as the killing of twins stopped by Mary Slessor.

     
  6. slim

    November 23, 2010 at 1:11 pm

    Very informative piece, keep it up Dr Neetah

     
  7. slim

    November 23, 2010 at 5:41 pm

    Very Informative piece, Keep it up Doc………

     
  8. rotimi shaba

    December 6, 2010 at 11:15 pm

    Culture is dynamic not static,that’s one of the most important characteristic of culture/tradition. FGM is outdated, obsolete and very barbaric. Has it actually reduced the incidence of premarital sex,unwanted pregnancies or infidelity? But I am sure we all agree that it carries a higher incidence of unwanted conditions such as HIV,tetanus,hepatitis etc.

     
  9. White Knight 2 Black Bishop

    December 19, 2010 at 11:21 am

    Dis is very informative and ur style of writing a piece on such a sensitive issue makes it easier 4 ur audience to read objectively while understanding the perils of FMG. Excellent piece of work,pls keep it comin

     
  10. Dr Henri

    February 15, 2011 at 1:41 am

    This is a masterpiece that can win you an award but ofcourse it also needs tons of censoring. In certain time space and geography, you will be publicly stoned for such explicit material.

     
  11. Ginger

    July 27, 2011 at 2:41 pm

    I love that you understood the cultural context from which the mother came. You didnt judge. Wonderful work. I dont support FGM. It holds no value. Just practices to subjugate women. Its only education/awareness that can stop it. Especially with the men cos they are the ones who with their wives can stand up and reject its execution on their girlchild..

    God bless

     
    • ritzmisan

      May 20, 2012 at 2:59 pm

      truth be told. the genital removal of females don’t gauranty the reduction of their lobido level. had a galfriend who ws cut and she cant do without a shag in a day. let them handle their issues when they grow up. wether tradition or not.

       
  12. Uchangel

    September 30, 2013 at 11:50 am

    No matter what anyone has to say about this, its barbaric as far as am concern. Its one of the cruelty of such traditions that are unfair on women (females). Male circumcision never in any way have an adverse effect on the male sexual performance and/or enjoyment. But in the case of FGM, its basically geared towards inhibiting d female from sexual pleasure(s), which is why i use the word ‘cruel’, and may i add, UNFAIR!!
    I think to tackle this, it wil have to start from the parents of this baby-girls. From their sexual experiences and love for their girl child, they are the 1st ones to determine if they want their sweet child cut or not. I will NEVER cut my gal.

     
    • Kimora

      October 12, 2015 at 9:38 pm

      Y yall don’t think thats funny that a baby

       

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