Somewhere along the way, you will meet someone who will be more charming or sensitive than the person you’re already with or sexier, more thoughtful, wealthier, better in bed & you will meet someone who will need you and pursue you and go crazy over you more than your girlfriend ever did because no girlfriend is perfect. Your girl will only have 90 percent of what you’re looking for and cheating happens when you look for the missing 10 percent.
Let’s say your girlfriend is moody by nature. You may find yourself drawn to the pretty girl next-door who has a cheerleader laugh no matter what she says e.g. ”I broke my arm yesterday, ha ha ha…” Or because your girlfriend is a couch potato who is always in pajamas and smelling of garlic and cooking oil, you may fall for the CK-One-smelling, colleague who comes to work in a sharp pinstripe blazer, high heels, and a red pencil-cut skirt. Or because your girlfriend’s the type who never shuts up even when you’ve tried using duct tape, your heart may skip a beat when you sit next to a brooding,mysterious quiet girl on the bus.
But wait! That’s only 10 percent of what you dont have. Dont throw away the 90 percent that you already do! add to the 90 percent the 100 percent that represents all the time that you have been with each other, the storms you have weathered together, the many adjustments you have made to better understand each other’s little quirks and idiosyncracies, the wealth of memories that you have accumulated as lovers, the old sparks that can always be rekindled by the walk on the beach, barefoot and underneath the stars just being with eachother…
Cheating happens when you start looking for what you dont have. But faithfulness happens when you start thanking God for what you already do.
The women are available not you… this is not an opportunity thing. You stay faithful by loving your girlfriend and thinking about the pain cheating would cause her even if she forgave you…
It’s called loyalty, strength of character, love, care, compassion, Honesty, Trust, Morals, integrity, dignity
-It’s called being a good boyfriend&good boyfriends become good husbands!
You have to remember that you promised your wifey. You are only eachother’s and temptation will always be out there waiting for you and inviting you in. But you must be strong and faithful, and remember that your heart and your love only belong to your woman. It is very hard to be faithful and it’s so easy to fall into temptation. But it’s not worth it.
Love is beautiful, and you should know how lucky you are to have found it with one person. It will all be worth it in the end, when it’s just you and your wife holding hands looking back on the wonderful life you had together, you don’t want to mess that up.
There’s a saying that a man is as faithful as his options let him be. If you got women routinely chasing you or putting you in a spot where you have to decide on sex with them or saying no, then it’s going to be a test of your integrity. An hour of pleasure is fleeting. A life of happiness is what everyone wants. If you throw away the latter for an hour of pleasure, a lot of people in your life will lose respect for you.
That is….if anyone finds out.
Then you have to live with the guilt and fear of worrying about someone finding out, or your mistress throwing a crazy fit and showing up at your door one day and that day may be when your girlfriend’s around.
Basically, there are good things and bad things with both cheating and staying faithful.
The good things in cheating are not better than the good things with staying faithful, but the bad things with cheating are way worse than the bad things with staying faithful. Example : You enjoy the hot sex, the conquest, the ego trip and the chase of getting a woman to cheat. Fun in the short term. But you also can enjoy a lifetime of happiness, pleasure, personal and relationship growth, with the security of knowing you have someone to share your life with.
Which is better?
You get caught cheating, your woman leaves you or never trusts you again and you destroy the beautiful thing you shared or you have to endure some low points in the relationship, boredom, monogamy, less freedom only for a while. Which is worse?
But u must first come to the realization that there is NOTHING and NO ONE worth more to you than your woman… it may take days, weeks, months or even years for you to come to that realization but once you do, you would do all in your power to protect her from hurt.
When feeling down and sorely tempted remember all the reasons why you love your woman and leave them on your list to remind you of what you have and what to be thankful for…..
Cheating shouldn’t ever be on your to-do list. Everyone should just know that you don’t cheat, the booty calls should realize that the status quo has changed and that as a man of integrity you have devoted yourself to one woman and you should be firm with them and not encourage them by giving them the slightest bit of attention. It only takes a minute to call your significant other and tell them, “this isn’t working out, it’s
over.” Click. Does it seem insensitive and cruel? Of course, but is it anymore insensitive and cruel than locking lips with or rolling around in the sack with someone else when you’ve promised exclusiveness with someone else? Don’t be that person. You know that old expression, “once a cheater, always a cheater?” Well it follows you. Reputations can be a nasty thing, especially in small circles, and that little adventure with the hot babe you met at the bar may wind up costing you a lot more than the drinks you bought. When word gets out that you’re the type that can’t keep it in your pants, not only have you doomed your current relationship (because the truth always, ALWAYS, comes out), but you’ve significantly slimmed your chances of finding anyone else willing to take a chance on you. I mean really, the people you classify as “hot” usually aren’t willing to waste their time on people who can’t manage to stay faithful anyway. They’re more than capable of finding someone hot AND monogamous.
Everyone gets tempted from time to time, but part of being an adult is having self-control. If you can’t manage that, again, don’t get into a relationship. Spend some time alone, and grow up & gain some perspective. Don’t be fooled by the saying that ‘all men cheat’…because the woman you are with may just be one of the few who’s determined to be with a faithful man and if she’s worth it, you’ll be sorry to see her go.
“Whatever I have tried to do in life, I have tried with all my heart to do it well; whatever I have devoted myself to, I have devoted myself completely; in great aims and in small I have always thoroughly been in earnest.”
— Charles Dickens